The Real Repercussions of Sex Before Marriage
After writing my blog post on why sex before marriage is ruining your chances of getting married, I received dozens of emails from women who had abortions.
They told me how they were crippled by the guilt and shame they were experiencing on a daily basis. I heard stories of how the father of the child refused to acknowledge the pregnancy and told them to “deal with it!” They talked about how they love God and want to have a relationship with Him but feel so overwhelmed by the gravity of their actions that they can’t bear to approach Him.
One woman said, “I murdered my own child, who can forgive that?”
Another said, “Every time I see a baby I’m reminded of the one I killed. On the day I got the abortion, I knew that it was wrong, but I desperately needed to believe that my baby was just a clump of tissue and I needed that problem to go away.”
They told me about the nightmares, the panic attacks and the depression.
How the world practically applauds them for their actions, and so they feel silenced and unable to talk about how painful it’s been for them since that day.
I wanted to take this Q & A to address this issue.
Dear Pastor Lily, What do I do after an abortion?
To All The Women who find themselves in this situation.
I’m so sorry to hear your story. What you’ve experienced is truly tragic.
I want you to know that God is so merciful. When you seek forgiveness He will give it to you.
Your babies are safe and you will be reunited with them if you have accepted Jesus.
I’m sure that your decision to have those abortions did not come easily. And you’re not the only person who is responsible for that outcome. The father of the child is equally responsible. Even our society which makes it easier to get an abortion than to handle an untimely pregnancy is responsible.
I would urge you to stay as close as you can to the Lord. He does not condemn you but wants to heal you. However, Satan will take advantage of every opportunity he can to accuse you and try to impose shame and depression in your life. Fight that!
What you did was wrong, but forgivable.
God can and wants to heal the brokenness. He wants you whole. Covered by the righteousness of Jesus. God wants to use you for His glory. He can take this tragedy and turn it around for good and He may use you to help those who have experienced the same pain in their lives.
Stay open to whatever He wants to do in your life.
You will most likely never get over this, but that doesn’t mean you need to suffer.
You’re a mother who has lost her children and there’s going to be grief and pain. I’d highly recommend seeking some counselling for grief and loss.
Again, I’m truly sorry you’ve experienced such hardship. I’m here for you and will help in any way I can.
God Bless You!
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