Soul Ties: 7 Signs and Symptoms of Ungodly Soul Ties.

The Truth about Ungodly Soul Ties

The most dangerous thing about soul ties is: they’re formed between people.

People who are sinners. And, who are selfish, greedy, cruel, abusive and manipulative.

People just like you and me.

Do you know that Soul Ties were made for our benefit?
That God intended for us to be blessed by these unseen spiritual connections.

But unfortunately something has gone seriously wrong alone the way.

We have been given this beautiful ability to form deep and meaningful relationships. some of which will last a life time.

Each of us have many soul ties in our lives.

What are soul ties?

Many Christians have heard of soul ties and assume that they are negative spiritual connections, formed as a result of sexual relationships. But there’s much more to them than that.

Soul ties are actually a healthy and essential part of God’s plan for human relationships. But, not all of them are good or godly.

If you’ve ever felt controlled, manipulated or dominated, or frustrated by memories of a previous relationship, you’re probably dealing with an ungodly soul tie.

Perhaps you’ve made promises to other people that you now regret because of the impact their having on your walk with God?

These symptoms are the result of ungodly soul ties.

As a pastor, I’ve seen the damage that is caused by these unholy alliances.

I understand the pain and heartbreak that is caused by divorce, dysfunctional families and broken friendships. Despite your best efforts to move on, your spiritual progress feels severely crippled, and it’s all because of soul ties.

It is my desire to see you set free from every ungodly soul tie.

I want to see you walking in freedom, released from toxic relationships and enjoying the healing power of the Lord Jesus Christ.

The other day, a young lady from church asked me, “what is a soul tie? Do I have one from sleeping with my ex-boyfriend? I still have dreams about him all the time and they’re usually kind of sexual. I don’t want to get back together with him, but I can’t help thinking about him all the time.”

This is a classic example of a sexual ungodly soul tie.

I helped her go through the process of breaking that soul tie and I want to help you too.

Now, she is enjoying a healthy relationship and is engaged to a lovely young man. She is no longer tormented by her past and is looking forward to a wonderful Godly marriage.

What is a soul tie?

A soul tie is any relationship where two become one, in mind, body, emotions or heart.

Let’s break down the words to figure out what this means.
God created us in His likeness and image.

“And God said, Let us make man in our image, after our likeness” –Genesis 1:26

God is – Father, Son, and Holy Spirit

Man is -Soul, Body, and Spirit. We are a spirit and soul, living in a body.

When the bible talks about the soul, it’s referring to the part, where the breath of life is. The soul houses the mind, will, and emotions. It’s the personality part of you. What makes you a unique individual.

The term Tie means cleaving together, sticking, joined or knit. – where two become one.

Two can become one through a variety of ways including covenants and vows, like in marriage, or physically through intercourse, or through agreements. (We will discuss different kinds of soul ties and how they are formed in greater detail next week.)

God links his people to one another, in loving, nurturing devoted relationships through these connections. They enable us to work together and the build of His kingdom.

For example; parents to children, husbands, and wives, the disciples of Christ being in one accord. Biblically founded relationships allow two or more people to do more than one individual could accomplish on their own.

Soul ties bind and attach us to one another in the body of Christ.

“Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves. A cord of three strands is not quickly broken” –Ecclesiastes 4:12

Ungodly soul ties

The enemy has perverted what is good it in order to destroy the children of God. Therefore, many Christians who love God, find themselves entangled in negative, ungodly soul ties.

These relationships become toxic and prevent us from enjoying independence, freedom, and choice. Ungodly soul ties use force, authority, influence or obligation to steer us away from God toward greater darkness and confusion.

Ungodly soul ties are never in our best interest and interfere with God’s will for our lives.

Once formed, they plunge you into a downward spiral of controlling, manipulative, abusive cycles of thoughts, emotions, and behaviors.

The biggest danger is that ungodly soul ties will influence you away from God and His family of believers and drive you towards solitude, anxiety, depression, heartache, loneliness, and despair.

Soul ties are soulish connections between two or more people. Therefore, they can remain intact despite physical distance and time.

So even though you may have ended a relationship in the physical realm you still need to cut ties in the spiritual realm.

We must build all relationships on the foundation of the love of God.

When things are out of order, healthy fruitful and positive relationships can turn negative and ultimately those we have ungodly soul ties with, become idols in our lives.

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But, God does not force us into relationships. For better or for worse, we are allowed to choose them for ourselves.

Let’s take the first relationship in the Bible for example.

Adam: God allowed him to look at all the creatures on earth to find himself a helpmate and gave him time to figure out for himself that none of the animals were suitable.

Only then, did God create Eve.

God designed us for relationships, he gave us parents, families, and societies, these are our primary soul ties.

But beyond that, God allows us to choose for ourselves, who we’ll have and who we’ll reject. He gives us the freedom to decide how we’ll treat others and if we’ll appreciate those around us.

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The Truth About Soul Ties

Even our primary relationships aren’t guaranteed, children can be abandoned, parents can be killed, people can be abducted and thrown into a different society. Nothing is certain.

I love teaching on soul ties because I believe that this is an extremely important topic that is dangerously misunderstood.

Soul ties are not just the result of two people having a sexual relationship.

I understand how badly you want to be free from evil and ungodly Soul Ties. That’s why I’ve created an online course to walk you through the entire process.

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While that is one way of forming a soul tie, that explanation is overly simplified and fails to tell the whole story.

Soul Ties aren’t connections to a demon soul mate.

For one thing, demons don’t have souls. While you can be tormented by a seductive spirit that comes to sleep with you in your dreams, that is different from a soul tie.

If you haven’t read the two articles leading up to this one, please go do that now. Because those articles will help you to appreciate what I am about to show you.

The Danger of Ungodly Soul Ties.

All human relationships are subject to hurts, disappointment, betrayal, and abuse.

Our fallen state has left every one of our relationships vulnerable to being snared, broken and bruised.

Even God-given soul ties can become so messed up that they need divine intervention to either break or restore.

When a human relationship deteriorates into an ungodly soul tie, there are 7 symptoms that will manifest.

The demise of Communication – You’ll stop talking
Loss of identity– You won’t know who you are
Failure to see the humanity of others – Feeling like nobody gets you
Inability to recognize suffering– You’re numb
Shame– You feel like a mistake
Cowardice– You’re anxious about everything
Stereotypes– You don’t see people for who they are.

These are all signs of a soul tie that will ultimately destroy both the relationship and the people in it.

Ultimately, an ungodly soul tie is dehumanizing and enslaving.

These are pretty serious consequences and we can see the evidence of ungodly soul ties all around us.

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Look at the Holocaust. Adolf Hitler and the Nazi’s attempted to wipe out the entire Jewish nation. That’s a perfect example of how totally destructive ungodly soul ties can be.

Adonai

God designed humans to be connected to one another under His perfect Lordship.

He alone is Adonai!

The Hebrew word Adonai means “Lord, Master, Owner”

And so there can be healthy soul ties.

Because the true purpose of Soul Ties is to connect a network of Kings (you and me)\ under the rule and reign of The King Of Kings!

When the system is turned upside down, that which was created for perfect good can be used for unspeakable evil.

Let’s look at the 7 soul tie symptoms

1.The Death of Communication:

You can’t talk without fighting.

Ungodly soul ties destroy our ability to communicate effectively with one another. Conversations begin to descend into fights and arguments.

Instead of speaking life, and calling out the greatness of one another, we begin to curse and verbally attack each other. Our communication style becomes manipulative and demeaning. This is almost always the first symptom of ungodly soul ties.

The way we speak opens the door to every other behavior.

2. Loss of Identity

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When people have been called names like; loser, slut, idiot, etc, they begin to internalize them.

We take on those labels and then we lose our identity. One of the most effective things the Nazi’s did to destroy the Jews was to refer to them as rats. By doing this long enough they were able to convince themselves that the Jews were less human than they were.

When people are dehumanized in this way, it becomes easier to justify inhuman activities. We can not exterminate an entire nation of people, but there is far less objection to the idea of exterminating rats.

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The atrocities that we saw in WWII were not unique. The same thing happened in the book of Esther.

Haman had an ungodly soul tie to Mordecai, he became obsessed with the idea of destroying Mordecai and annihilating his people.

“When Haman saw that Mordecai would not kneel down or pay him honor, he was enraged”. – Esther 3:5

The book of Esther demonstrates how Haman becomes increasingly hung up on his murderous plot which ultimately leads to his own demise.

So, it’s important to understand that not every soul tie you might have is being actively strengthened by you. In this case, Mordecai was the victim of someone else’s harassment.

Thankfully, when you are in right standing with God, He will step in to defend you and fight your battles.

3. Failure To See The Humanity Of Others: Feeling Like No Body Gets YOU.

Pride is dangerous because it allows one to think that they are better than someone else. Combined with vanity, which blinds us to the truth, we fail to recognize the humanity of others.

Then you can treat people as commodities instead of individuals. A thing that can be sold and bought, used and abused.

God desires for us to recognize the divinity within one another. Ungodly soul ties destroy that ability. Instead, they enable us to engage in possessive, controlling and manipulative behavior.

4. Inability To Recognize Suffering

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God has given us the responsibility to help others. But what happens when we stop caring?

Throughout the Bible, God repeatedly instructs His people to care for the widow and orphan, to help the foreigner and to tend to those who are in need.

We need to help each other.

But ungodly soul ties harden our heart. We become callous and indifferent to the suffering of others. We can ignore those who are in need without any repercussions in our conscience.

5. Shame

Shame is the MOST destructive symptom of ungodly soul ties because it makes you feel like you ARE a MISTAKE.

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The voice of shame says that you are unworthy, unlovable, wrong, and pathetic. Many people who are entangled in ungodly soul ties are experiencing depression because they have accepted the lie that they deserve to be treated badly.

Shame makes it easy for someone else to abuse you because you’ll believe you deserve it. Shame ultimately leads to cowardice and fear. There’s often an emotional soul tie that needs to be broken so that you can enjoy peace and freedom.

6. Cowardice

We all experience fear, but cowardice is especially painful because it has no upside. Fear can motivate you, it can warn you and cause you to take action. But cowardice tells you you’re helpless and don’t bother trying.

Cowardice sounds like “I can’t!”

Cowardice conditions you to always be the victim and makes it easier for predators to take advantage.

7. Stereotypes

Godly soul ties allow you to see the unique individuality of each of God’s children. You have a deeper level of empathy and a greater ability to forgive because you can understand other people’s unique set of circumstances. On the other hand, stereotypes cause you to paint everyone with the same brush.

For example, Because, you have internalized the belief that all men are the same; you approach a new romantic relationship with the same attitude and defenses mechanism you used in your previous broken relationship.

You flinch and expect to get hit when voices are raised.

But There’s SOMETHING YOU CAN DO ABOUT IT

You See? Ungodly soul ties manifest in ways that pull people away from God and into the darkness.

They steal our ability to see things from God’s perspective and limit our capacity for understanding the implications of our actions. It’s easy to fall into the belief that nothing matters because you can’t see the consequences occurring around you. We yield ourselves to the belief that our negative circumstance implies that God does not exist.

How many times have we heard people ask “If God exists why does He let all these bad things happen?”

Such pain and suffering can ultimately blind you to the presence of God. Then you become seriously committed to the belief that ” if this bad thing happened, God cannot be real.”

Ungodly soul ties enslave people.

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How you got entangled in an ungodly soul tie, doesn’t matter. Whether it’s because someone else hurt you, or because of a decision you made, the results are the same. And the solutions are the same as well.

YOU HAVE THE POWER TO BREAK EVERY SOUL TIE

If you’re bound and enslaved, manipulated and controlled, there is a way out.

Jesus has come and given His precious blood to set the captives free!

It is the will of God for you to be free and whole. God will set you free!

Slaves have no rights. Death is inevitable and certain, so it’s easy to engage in self-destructive activities.

That’s not God’s will for your life.

Godly soul ties can raise you up to the highest heights
Ungodly soul ties can take you down into the abyss.

Ungodly soul ties are ugly, and we are easily tempted to turn away and try to forget about them.

But doing so gives them the power to come back and overwhelm you once more, not just you, but generations to come. Vicious cycles of abuse and destruction that continue over and over again.

Ultimately ungodly soul ties destroy your humanity.

You become hollow, unthinking, unbelieving, fearful and alone.

Make the decision to say “Enough is Enough!”

Take back your power and authority and use the Name of Jesus, to break free from every ungodly soul tie.

In order to experience divine freedom from ungodly soul ties, you must say a soul tie prayer:

Acknowledge the Ungodly Soul Ties
Confess and repent of them
Forgive those who bound you
Break & Separate from them

You might need to break an ungodly soul tie or unhealthy soul tie after a divorce, when a friendship ends, when leaving a workplace, or when you’re grieving the loss of a relationship. Use the free worksheet below to determine if you need to break a soul tie.