Self-love is not selfish! As Christians, it’s actually an essential part of our walk with God.
But as the world becomes more self-indulgent and egocentric many Christians feel that in order to be selfless and right with God, that they must become martyrs, burning themselves out to keep others warm.As the world becomes more self-indulgentand egocentric, Christians are becoming martyrs, burning themselves out to keep others warm. Click To Tweet
It’s time to bust the myths around self-love and start talking about what it really takes to truly love ourselves and others.
In the Bible, when Peter was asked for money by a crippled man, Peter wasn’t able to give him any.
Peter said, “Silver or gold I do not have, but what I do have I give you. In the name of Jesus Christ of Nazareth, walk.”
Peter didn’t have money to give, instead he gave him something better, the gift of healing.
But, for us as Christian women, one thing that almost everyone around us wants is more love. Real love. True Love. And, all too often, we find ourselves burnt out. We’ve given all that we have until there’s nothing left.
What is Self-Love?
Self-love is seeing ourselves THE WAY GOD SEES US.
First of all, when God looks at us he sees Christ. He doesn’t see a sinner, He sees the finished work. When we look at ourselves it’s hard not to see the problems.
Of course, we know we’re not there yet. There’s all the doubt, sin, shame, and mess. We don’t have to ignore the problems, they’re a real part of our lives, but we can’t let them become more real than the truth that God has declared over us.
The fact is; we can’t give what we don’t have.
And, when it comes to following God’s commandments that’s a big problem. Because God has clearly commanded us that we MUST LOVE one another.
A new commandment I give to you, that you love one another; as I have loved you, that you also love one another. By this all will know that you are My disciples, if you have love for one another.”
Self-love is all about fully receiving the Love that Jesus has freely given us so that we can obey His command to love others.Self-love is all about receiving the Love that Jesus has freely given us so that we can obey His command to love others. Click To Tweet
Here’s the thing, when we choose to practice self-love, it’s not about treating ourselves to expensive spa treatments or indulging in a night of binge-watching Netflix. It’s about taking the time to look within and discover who we are from God’s perspective.
- Made in His Image – Genesis 1:27
- Fearfully and Wonderfully made – Psalm 139:14
- The apple of His Eye –
Self-Love empowers us to see ourselves set free from sin.
We can’t ignore sin, when we feel the conviction of the Holy Spirit it is our obligation to repent and deal with our sin by walking away from it. But to do so requires the grace of God.
Too often Christians get bogged down with the feeling that they’re not worthy of Grace. But if God believes you should have it, who are you to argue with Him? After all, it’s God’s gift to each of us, and Self-Love, seeing ourselves the way God sees us, allows us to receive it.
Self-Love helps us to move forward, away from our sinful past toward righteousness in Christ. When we receive the love of Christ we have a stronger desire to renew our minds and follow Him faithfully. When we are stuck in a mindset of self-loathing, it makes us want to run and hide from God the same way Adam did after eating the fruit in the Garden of Eden.
True Self-Love can only occur within a relationship with God.
The biggest reason why self love is so criticised within the Chirstian communuity is because it’s being compared to what the world is doing.
When you are apart from God and you look inward, how can you see anything but the sinner? In the world, self-love is indulgent and deceptive. It leads to pride and egotistical behavior.
But in Christ, Self-love is both beautiful and essential.
As Christians, practicing self love should never dethrone God from His rightful place in our hearts, it should serve to draw us closer into a relationship with Him and the world around us.
Self-Love should move us to see our role in this world as vitally important and should spur us on to the become the very best version of ourselves. Reflecting Christ to everyone around us.
Self-love involves Self Care
How many times have you neglected yourself in order to care for those around you?
As a Mom, I do it on the daily!
I’m constantly putting other people’s needs before my own. Before I’ve had a chance to brush my own teeth, I’ve already done at least a dozen things for other people. Women don’t need to be told to be more selfless. We do that pretty well on our own.
[Mary says,] My entire life, I’ve read those verses and never noticed the two little words in verse 31. Did you catch them? As yourself. Love your neighbor as yourself.
Mark 12:30-31 says, “Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind and with all your strength.’ The second is this: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’ There is no commandment greater than these.”
That means you are supposed to love yourself, too!
It doesn’t say love your neighbor and belittle or neglect yourself. Sometimes we mistakenly believe that self-degradation is synonymous with “showing humility.” Jesus wants you to love and value yourself as His beloved child and creation.
Mary Harp Article From: Equipping Godly Women
Ask yourself: Would I want my dearest friend or family member to treat themselves the way I’m treating myself?
DO YOU LOVE YOURSELF ENOUGH?
True Self Love will empower you to walk away from sin, negative self-talk, guilt and condemnation. When you truly love yourself, you will not allow the devil to continue his guilt trip. True Self Love will push you to be your very best all for the glory and honor of God.
Stop trying to pour out of an empty vessel.
If you really want to love others take the time to focus on solidifying your relationship with Christ by receiving His love.
The 21 Day Challenge will help you discover who you are in Christwhile helping you to appreciate the unique gifts and abilities He has given to use within the world.
In this challenge you will take daily action steps with a group of women from around the world. We will be encouraging and supporting one another as we dig deep within to discover what God has hidden in us to pour out to others.
You can be the Mother, Wife, Daughter, Sister, Co-worker, And Friend that you’ve always wanted to be when you fill up on the Love of God and receive it as your very own.