Dear Pastor Lily,
Help! I’m stuck! It’s Christmas and once again I’ve given too much. I give until it hurts. And now, I’m bitter and angry and lashing out at those I’ve lavished my generosity on because they just don’t appreciate it. I hope for too much. I think my expectations are set too high. Maybe I’m doing it almost on purpose so I have an excuse if things don’t go the way I want them to. I worry about everything that MIGHT go wrong. I daydream about all the possible worse case scenarios. Please advise! I can’t keep going like this.
Susan, from Paris.
You’ve articulated your problem very passionately and with great honesty.
I believe that you’ve actually taken an important first step towards putting an end to those unwanted behaviours. With the New Year a week away Now is the perfect time to push into effect a new mindset.
Go further in your quest to end this toxicity.
Begin by praying for and give compassion and forgiveness. For yourself and for those around you. Work on mending broken relationships and being a little gentler with everyone, yourself included. We are not perfect and are not under any obligation to achieve perfection.
I strongly believe that perfection is for God alone.
But, I do strive for excellence and I encourage others to do so as well.
There is, however, an important distinction between the two.
Perfection is done. It is. It’s complete and whole. Incorruptible.
Excellence is a process. It’s learning, fine-tuning, creative, and sensitive.
So, give up your notions of having anything perfect and instead strive for excellence. Be gentle on your way to achieving it, because it’s a fragile and elusive thing that needs a lot of tender care.
You should also consider taking the course on soul ties.
It would help bring healing to your damaged relationships.
You can learn more about soul ties in these articles:
God Bless You!
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