Dear Pastor Lily
Instead of worrying, what can I be thinking about?
“The light of the body is the eye: if therefore thine eye be single, thy whole body shall be full of light.” -Matthew 6:22 KJV
When the eye is “single” it means I need to not be distracted by worrybut focused. Focused on my purpose and what God needs me to do. Not thinking about my self.
But sometimes at work I don’t have to think very much, just clicking buttons. Plus on the train, walking home, there’s a lot of time to be thinking. What is it I’m meant to be thinking about during the day instead of worry?
I can think about “What is pure, lovely, admirable, praiseworthy”. I can think, oh it’s a nice sunny day, and that person did a good job. But what am I meant to be thinking about all the time? -Anonymous
First of all, unless I need to be problem-solving I try not to let my mind wander too much. Especially if I’m in a mood where my mind is likely to focus on something negative, like an argument I’ve just had or something that bothers me but is out of my control. To keep my mind busy I like to listen to podcasts or other audio series Especially when I’m doing something like cleaning or driving. There are so many good podcasts/radio programs out there to follow. Here are a few of my favorite people to listen to or have on in the background.
I love learning from
Dr. David Jeremiah – He explains the bible very clearly.
Joyce Myers– She is great for anything to do with emotions and attitude.
T.D Jakes– He is an inspiring storyteller. Brings the Bible to life and makes it relatable.
Joseph Prince– He helps me understand grace and the abundance of God’s love.
And of course my Papa, Prophet Kofi Danso at Miracle Arena for All Nations.
Right now I’m also working on self-improvement and entrepreneurship.
So I’m watching and reading and listening to everything created by Ramit Sethi, Marie Forleo, and Tim Ferriss. I don’t know if they are Christian or not, and they do use some colorful language from time to time, but I listen to them because they are world-class people who are becoming the best in their fields. They’re young enough that I can relate to them and use them as role models for success.
I listen to everything they say and examine it through the lens of scripture and I’m constantly asking myself “does this line up with the word of God or not? Can I find scripture to back up what they’re saying?” Because even though they’re talking about something extremely worldly, they also are applying biblical principals.
The Bible warns Christians to be careful with their biblical wisdom and not to throw pearls to the pigs.
I believe that for centuries now Christians have failed to hold on to their pearls (Biblical wisdom) and now they are being used very effectively by the world and the world is profiting.
So my own little personal mission is to listen to these people who have created amazing businesses and are very successful and I will reclaim those pearls.
If you read my answer to last weeks Q&A and saw the little bit I included about the Navy Seal, I got that from a podcast I was listening to.
Secondly, I also know what I want. I’ve got pretty clear goals that are completely my own. I take ownership for what I am creating in my life and I am going after those things. I’m not afraid to try something and fail, because it’s never really a failure anyways. It’s just a learning opportunity.
Let me tell you the different things I’ve tried.
I went to university and thought I would become an English professor. Finished my BA but I didn’t have money to continue so I took a full-time position as a child and youth worker.
I left that job for about 8 months to train as a doula (birth coach) and started to create a website around that. I ran out of money so I went back to my youth worker job. Which is where I met husband, Lovingson.
After that, I started a shoe store. I created another website for that but I gave it up because it wasn’t making enough money and I had just become a new mom.
I Spent that year learning to be a mom and brainstorming ideas on how to make money from home.
I Started making and selling piñatas. I was the Piñata Mama.
Then Chipo got sick and I spent a year learning everything there is to know about type 1 Diabetes.
Amidst all of this,
My husband and I were getting serious into ministry with Miracle Arena for All Nations, so that was playing a big role in our lives too.
A few months ago in July 2017, our second baby came, we’ve moved into a bigger ministry and I’m working on finding a way to help people through another online thing.
The great thing about this time is, I have an English degree to help me with writing. I have ministry experience to help me support my theories with scripture. I have a lot of empathy for pain and struggle because I’ve certainly been there. I’ve got experience setting up a website domain and brainstorming ideas.
I have all these areas in my life where some people would look at it and say, you never finish anything, what makes you think you’ll be able to do this. Nothing you do works out.
But the Bible tells me that all things are working for my good. So why would I believe in heaven and hell and not all the promises of God?
Everything must be working for my good.
I didn’t struggle in vain. I’m falling forward. I’m more experienced. And even if things don’t go the way I want them to with this blog, that’s okay. I’m not afraid to fail. I’m afraid of what life will look like if I don’t try.
If you have a lot of fear and anxiety. Toughen up! Go find things to do that confront those fears head-on. Keep asking “What’s the worst thing that can happen”. Usually, the true consequences are not nearly as bad as we have imagined them to be.
For me, there are only 2 things that I actually worry about:
1. Things that I know will offend God.
2. Things that will hurt my marriage or children.
If what I want to do doesn’t conflict with my 2 limits, I go for it. I actively seek out things that intimidate me and I try to overcome them.
Finally, it’s one thing to consume endless amounts of information and another to actually start applying it. The timing is never ideal. Don’t sit on an idea and wait for the right time. Just go for it. Now! If it was a bad idea that’s ok. Lesson learned. Try another one. Then another one. Then another one!
Eventually, something is going to just click and stick. Don’t worry about following your passion cause that only lasts for the first 48 hours. Then it’s just hard work and a matter of figuring it out.
It’s also okay to have multiple projects going at once.
Get really good at juggling. You don’t have to spend all your time focusing on one thing. If one project comes to a halt, it’s nice to be able to switch gears and work on something else for a little while.
Right now I’ve got babies climbing all over me, my husband is crazy busy with the church, and I’m doing my best to keep the house and home organized. I’m bending time to be able to create content for my blog and I’m learning it all as I go.
It’s beautiful chaos! I don’t have time to worry because I’m just too busy. Best of all, I no longer struggle with insomnia because by the time I get to bed I’m tired.