Men lose interest after sex.
Single Christian Women Need to Remember Because it’s a Fact.
This isn’t just my opinion.
It’s the honest truth that too many people don’t want to talk about.
Of course, not every man will lose interest. There will always be stories of couples who got married years after starting a sexual relationship. But that behavior is neither Biblical nor advisable.
So if you’re wondering why he hasn’t called you back.
Here are the top 3 honest answers you need to know.
Why do guys lose interest after you sleep with them?
Many women have experienced this issue over and over again. They’ve waited a reasonable amount of time according to the world standards.
But as soon as they give in to temptation, the guy loses interest and disappears.
This is so frustrating!
And you’re left wondering why?
Was it you?
Was it too soon?
You’re Probably wondering why.
Why do men lose interest after you’ve slept with them?
And you’re also asking yourself; how do you keep a guy interested after sleeping with him?
Here’s the honest answer:
Marry Him First!
Now I know that this is not a popular concept.
But I was never one of the cool kids so I don’t care.
I care about sharing the truth.
And the truth is that sex before marriage has more negative consequences than positive outcomes.
In My Experience
From what I’ve seen, it’s the women who try to hold onto a relationship by using sex who get hurt the most when he pulls away after they’ve slept together
And it’s not hard to see why.
When you use sex to try to hold on to a relationship it tends to have the opposite effect.
I’ve written more about this in my popular post Why Sex Before Marriage is ruining your chance of a wedding.
Let me tell you what he thinks after you slept with him.
Men are usually thinking one of three things.
- I don’t know this person as well as I thought I did.
- She’s taking this way more seriously then I am, I better go before she gets hurt.
Let’s break that down by looking at the 3 main reasons why men lose interest in a woman after sex.
The First Reason Men Lose Interest After Sex
This is by far the most common reason men lose interest in a woman after sex. And it can be hard to hear because as women, we want to believe that we are special.
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But, if you are going to a woman of God, you’ve got to be willing to look at the darkness around you.
You can’t stay naive.
The truth is:
He Was Only Ever Interested In Sex
Some men are just like that.
They are only interested in one thing.
And once they get it, they move on.
For some men, it’s a phase.
You know what they say about “sowing wild oats”
But others never out grow it.
No matter how old they get they still only want one thing.
The temptation for men to chase tail is serious.
Especially if they grew up in a very religious home with over controlling parents.
This can go for women too.
They can go through those early years of adult hood and simply decide that I’m going to do, what I want to do, when I want to do it, and with whomever is standing closest.
This generation glorifies one night stands and adamantly refuses
There are a lot of prodigal children walking around in the world today.
Talking about the love of the Father, but feeling very far from it.
Many still hold onto the title of Christian, but they don’t have the power to over come the various forms of temptation all around them.
There are demonic forces at play that will take up residence in someone and cause them to repeat destructive patterns of behavior, over and over again.
They need to go through deliverance, by fully surrendering to the will of God and choosing to turn away from that behavior. They need to truly repent so that those sexual demons have no power over him.
Until that happens, this person will continue to cause damage by choosing to use this act of love in such a selfish way.
Even if he gets married, there will be an extremely high chance that he will continue to have affairs.
Some men actually take pride in getting a woman’s virginity. They specifically target virgins.
Other men take pleasure in getting a woman to compromise her values.
As the saying goes; You can’t rape the willing.
There’s sadly a large number of men out there that that are borderline rapists. They have very little
They don’t want a relationship.
They want to make you feel used and small.
And with the porn industry the way it is, it’s no
They will intentionally say and do whatever it takes to get you into bed, and then laugh at you for believing they were sincere.
If this has ever happened to you, I am terribly sorry.
You deserve so much better than that.
The Second Reason Men Lose Interest After Sex
They say that Love is Blind, but it’s just not true.
Love sees you for who you are.
The Bible tells us what love is:
“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7 It always protects, always trusts, always
hopes, always perseveres.
Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away.
1 Corinthians 13:4-8
God describes sex between a husband and wife as knowing.
“Adam Knew Eve”
God isn’t being shy about sex here by using flower language.
He is actually revealing an important truth about love and sexual relationships.
Love is seeing, knowing and accepting the other person for who they are.
The second reason men lose interest in women after sex is that it
It was Lust not Love
You thought you were falling for each other.
Everything felt so good. So right!
You feel so alive when you’re together.
Your body literally tingles when he is near by.
So you decide to take things to the next level.
And in that moment it was amazing!
Then once you slept together he started acting weird.
The next day, he had a lot of work to take care of. Something urgent came up. And you thought; “That’s fair, we’ve spent a lot of time together in the last few weeks and he probably has some catching up to do.”
But then he didn’t call in the evening.
You play it cool, not a problem.
You don’t want to make a big deal out of anything.
A few days go by, and you’re not sure why, but you noticed he changed after you slept together.
You try to talk about it, you maybe see each other a couple more times.
But it soon becomes clear.
He’s just not that into you.
Despite the fact that the two of you use to spend hours on the phone.
Maybe you had a nightly ritual going of calling to say goodnight and then going to work the next day exhausted because you ended up talking all night.
He didn’t call after you slept together.
And he didn’t even text!
You use to send each other dozens of text messages throughout the day.
But after you had sex all you got was:
I know this can be hard because you were starting to feel really connected to him. You really felt like you had waited and maybe it was time to take the relationship to the next level.
Maybe he told you he loves you.
And you said it back.
Here’s what you might be thinking:
“I know this is wrong, but right now I don’t care, because right now, it feels right!”
Maybe you thought sex would make the relationship last.
It’s very common for women to try and use sex to solidify a commitment. But all too often, they get the
Men just don’t typically have the same emotional drive for commitment as women.
So if you sleep together, he is probably thinking… that was nice.
But I don’t even know her.
Because during all those Face time calls he was just staring at your chest.
The Third Reason Men Lose interest after Sex
Assuming the guy is a decent human being. The biggest reason men lose interest in women after sex is because they got scared.
Women do a lot of things that men find both confusing and frustrating.
For example, women will fail to mention that they’re a Christian and that they believe sex is for marriage until after they’ve had sex.
Then, they will start talking about their faith, and their disappointment in themselves, their guilt and their hope that this guy is going to make things right by marrying them.
That’s a sure fire way to freak him out!
The honest answer here is that you’ve invested too much too fast.
You Invested Too Much Too Fast
Maybe you liked him before you had sex, but you weren’t head over
That’s because orgasms release a powerful drug called Oxycontin that is especially potent for women. And it’s called the love hormone for a reason.
It is part of God’s brilliant plan for married couples to be hooked on each other.
But outside of
And sometimes, when women experience this release of
But it sends men running for the hills.
If the unexpected tears happened on your wedding night, you could just say that it’s because you’re so happy about this huge celebration and your future together.
And he will p
But when it’s premature and outside of marriage and you start looking at this guy with that weird love stare, they tend to get really nervous.
So even through he might have sincerely liked you, he is going to pull away because he’s not interested in that level of emotional intimacy.
You’ve got to slow down!
There are 5 different stages to a relationship that should be taken slowly.
- Initial attraction
- Connection and Intimacy
Some people go through all five stages several times within a few months.
But, ideally, a couple who hopes to have a long and lasting relationship should move through these stages slowly and with intention.
Preserving the last 3 for marriage.
Now you know why some guys will ignore you after hooking up.
Don’t be afraid to set strict and healthy limits in your relationships.
I know it’s hard, because it’s not just him. You want it too.
But you’re a daughter of the Most High King!
You’ve got to carry yourself in a way that is different from the rest of the world. And you can’t be afraid to let your light shine.
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Men will climb over mountains, swim across rivers and walk 10,000 miles for sex. Wars have been started over sex. It is undeniably powerful.
But if you use that power to lure a man, and give it away before getting married, you’ve opened the door for him to go too.
If you know that you are ready for marriage and that’s what you want. Don’t settle for less.
The right man will not only respect you, he will be more attracted to you. Because he is looking for a wife who will value herself.
If, you’re reading this and feeling like it’s too late and you’ve already blown it. Don’t beat yourself up.
You can read my post: What to do after you’ve slept with him.
Now I want to hear from YOU!
Has this ever happened to you? If so, what did you do about it?
What do you wish other women knew about this type of situation?
Let me know in the comments below.
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