The “Desires of your heart” bible verse is popular because it seems like a promise from God that you can get whatever you want. But this beautiful psalm when understood properly is a formula for success.
As a Christian life coach, one of my favorite questions, that I ask each of my new clients to answer is this; “If God answered all of your prayers tomorrow, what would change?
Often times, this simple question leaves people stumped. They tell me they just want to be happy or peaceful. Or they want to be married, or they want their finances to be stable.
There’s nothing wrong with those desires, but the problem is that they’re very vague. And if you were feeling happy or peaceful, would that mean that all of your prayers have been answered?
This is an important question to answer, and I’d love it if you’d join us in the comments below to discuss it. I’ll be replying to everyone of them and I may be able to give you some great coaching that you will be able to apply in your life today.
What are the desires of your heart?
Before you can receive the desires of your heart we need to understand how this promise works.
Psalm 37 says:
Do not fret because of those who are evil
or be envious of those who do wrong;
2 for like the grass they will soon wither,
like green plants they will soon die away.
3 Trust in the Lord and do good;
dwell in the land and enjoy safe pasture.
4 Take delight in the Lord,
and he will give you the desires of your heart.
5 Commit your way to the Lord;
trust in him and he will do this:
6 He will make your righteous reward shine like the dawn, your vindication like the noonday sun.
First of all, who is promising it?
It’s important to recognize that it is The LORD, YAHWEH, The God of Isreal, The Father of our Saviour Jesus Christ who is promising us His faithful children, the desires of our hearts.
Next, consider where are your desires coming from?
In Christ, we are a new creation, and God gives us a new heart. A heart that beats for Him. A heart of flesh instead of a heart of stone.
“I will give you a new heart and put a new spirit in you; I will remove from you your heart of stone and give you a heart of flesh”.
A heart of stone represents resistance, stubbornness, coldness, senseless, and unimpressionable. But a heart of flesh is passionate, soft, tender, loving, and has its spiritual senses. It is a heart that’s alive to the will and word of God.
When you have a heart of flesh, God puts desires in your heart. He can make an impression on your heart because it’s open, receptive and responsive to Him.
How do you know if the desires of your heart are from God?
Are you saved? Have you given your life to God? If so, He promises us that HE will begin to do a might work in us. That he will cause us to begin to walk in his statutes and according to His ways.
There’s a lot of fear around this, because most people have been taught that they can’t trust themselves. That their heart will decieve them. And in the world, that’s true. But YOU are not of the world.
You’re no longer trusting yourself, you’re trusting God.
This is really challenging though because God is in you and without practice it’s very hard to differentiat his thoughts from your thoughts. But with practice, learning to distinguish the voice of God because as easy as being able to tell the difference between the call of a loon and the caw of a crow.
At first, it’s all just bird sounds, but as you learn to listen, you begin to notice the differences.
“My sheep hear my voice, and I know them, and they follow me.”John 10:27
By spending time in the word of God, going to church, learning His ways and doing His will, you will learn to recognize His voice. These are fundamental ingredients to establishing your relationship with God.
God will give you the desires of your heart according to His will
It God’s will that you should have the desires of your heart. To often we feel bad about wanting anything. Like we should always be satisfied with what we have, but that’s not God’s plan or desire for us.
God wants us to want.
I know that sounds strange, but it’s true. God want us to be grateful for what we have and appreciate what He has given us, but He also wants us to WANT what we already have and want more as well.
Here’s the thing, we tend to assume that once we have something we no longer want it. For example, if I want ice cream, once I have it I no longer want it. In this way, we put all of our wants ahead of us in the future.
But, it’s important for us to contunue wanting what we already have.We can't just want what we don't have, we have to want what we have. When we want both, it's easier to receive and appreciate. Click To Tweet
For example; I want to be married, and I am. And, I want to have two beautiful girls and I do. I want to take a family vacation with them, and I will.
When we sandwich the wants that we don’t have with the wants that we do have, it becomes easier for our brains to connect the dots and help up get what we want.
Think of it this way,
Have you ever believed that it’s easier for some people to get the things they want, then for others? It’s because their brains are already trained to make the connection between the things they have and don’t have.
When God doesn’t give you the desires of your heart
What about when God doesn’t give you the desires of your heart?
Does it mean that God is saying no? If you don’t see what you want in front of you, what are you making that mean?
All too often we jump to conclusions about why something is or isn’t happening to us. And the truth is, it’s impossible to know because we can’t even read other people’s minds, let alone the mind of God. His ways are higher than our ways. But, when we look at our circumstances and make assumptions about God we tend to get off track.
What assumptions have you made about God, and His will for your life?
And this brings us back to the question I asked in the beginning. If God answered your prayers today, what would your life look like? Would you be happy, and is happy all you really want?If God answered your prayers today, what would your life look like? Would you be happy, and is happy all you really want? Click To Tweet
What do you want?
It’s time to do some soul searching. What is it that you REALLY want? Is that desire coming from your heart or your head? Are you confusing wants and needs? Is it something you really want or is it a quick fix?
When I talk to women who struggle with sexual temptation, at first they usually feel frustrated because they think they want an orgasm. But when we dig a little deeper, we find that what they really want is to feel loved and connected. They want to feel like they belong. They often think they need someone else to give them this feeling, but through coaching, they discover that no one can produce a feeling for them and that their feelings are their responsibility.
This is a very empowering discover for most because it means that they’re no longer reliant on an external circumstance to produce the feeling they want. As a result they are free to create the feeling for themselves and go after the relationship they want from a place of self worth and fulfillment instead of desperation.
WAITING ON THE LORD
The final element in this formula for success is time. All too often we’re in a hurry. We want what we want and we want it NOW!
We behave like my two little girls when they’re overtired, hungry and tired. If there’s something they think they need and they don’t get it immidiately, there’s a meltdown.
But if we are willing to wait on the Lord, if we will go through the process and enjoy the journey, we can rest assured that every good thing that He has planned for us will come to pass.
I was recently asking myself, what do I really want, and I was using the answers to come up with personal goals. But I also wrote down all the milestones that I would celebrate along the way.
I realized that if I achieved all of my goals tomorrow, I would miss a lot of opportunities to celebrate along the way.I realized that if I achieved all of my goals tomorrow, I would miss a lot of opportunities to celebrate along the way. Click To Tweet
What about you? Do you want to rush to the finish line? Or would you like to enjoy the walk with God along the way?
God wants to give His children the desires of their hearts. If you are called by His name, and you will walk in His, your desires will be transformed into His desires.
Your hopes and dreams are not your own. They are the visions that God has given you. I want to encourage you to take yourself more seriously. You’re here for a reason and you have a special gift to share that the world needs.
What do you want? I mean what do you REALLY want? Take 2 minutes and share your heart’s desires with me in the comments below.