It’s the holidays; and this year I have a challenge for you.
One that will make you more attractive and will actually change the atmosphere around you.
I challenge you to join me and for the next 12 days share these invisible gifts and experience the power, love, energy, and joy of being totally alive and present during the holiday season.
Commit with full force to share these gifts each day and create momentum towards building a powerful base of pure love in your relationships.
- Undivided Attention
- Creative Energy
- Peaceful Surroundings
This challenge will change the atmosphere around you. When your kind, thoughtful and generous you’re living like your best self, and that is extremely attractive.
During the holidays we meet lots of new people. And I want you to be glowing and radiant, bestowing blessings here and there. Living abundantly and beautifully.
Without searching and you will begin to attract the attention of men who will take notice of what you’re doing and it will provide an easy conversation starter.
But don’t get your motives twisted.
Do this with pure love. Let your mission be giving. Not Getting. But know that in due time, each of your gifts will return to you.
Here’s How It Works
This challenge is taking place Live inside of my private Facebook Group for Single Christian Women.
Each day I will be going live on Facebook to share on that day’s challenge.
You can participate in all the fun by joining us here:
But I will also be updating the post daily with the latest information so you can participate whether you’re a single Christian woman or not.
The Gift of Undivided Attention
We are all constantly distracted.
Can you even remember the last time you were bored?
Unless of course your phone was dead.
Because we have our a source for constant entertainment and work.
We might think that people don’t notice that we’re not fully paying attention but they do.
And we all know how it feels to talk to someone who is clearly reading text messages or people watching over our shoulder
It doesn’t feel good.
When we do this to others, they can’t see us for who we truly are. Distractions get in the way of trust and love.
So today; Give someone the invisible gift of your undivided attention.
Show them that you’r actually listening
- Close the laptop
- Put down the phone
- Take out your earbuds
- Turn off the TV
Show someone that you really care about them and that you’re ready to listen, play or work together.
Take it one step further.
Research shows that just having your iPhone near you reduces the quality of the conversation.
I know that for me, if my husband is fiddling with his phone I automatically pick mine up too.
For the rest of the day, whenever you’re talking to someone, silence your phone and put it completely out of sight. Encourage the person you’re talking to do the same.
True, undivided attention is a rare gift. Show someone that you value them more than a new text message or Facebook notification
How can you share this gift with someone today?
In the comments below,
Share what you’re going to do and then come back tomorrow to share how it went and get your next challenge.
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The Gift Of Enthusiasm
We all have that special extra bubbly friend in our lives who has a way of making us smile, even when everything is going wrong.
That person is sharing the gift of enthusiasm with you.
There zest for life is contagious and they encourage you to laugh and relax a little bit. It’s a quality we love and admire in others.
But, if we hope to be undeniably attractive to others, we must learn to share it ourselves.
Don’t worry about the latest lip stick shade on eye shadow, enthusiasm takes years off of you and gives you a radiant glow.
The word enthusiasm literally means God Within.
It’s a natural by-product of having The Lord Jesus at home in your heart.
And that gives you power and energy to do the Will of God, Serve others, Be creative, Find Love and so much more.
Enthusiasm is Jet Fuel to your hopes and dreams.
It’s a gift you can give to yourself and the whole world every single day.
It allows you to run with your wild ideas and turn them into a profitable business, project or goal.
When you’re enthusiastic you’re sending signals to those around you letting them know that you are strong, passionate and full of life.
And the Right Man is bound to take notice.
He will pick up on all that energy and be attracted to it.
Guaranteed, he will want to know who you are and what you’re all about.
Because enthusiasm stands out for all the right reasons.
In today’s world filled with cynicism, criticism and sarcasm Enthusiasm is like a breath of fresh air in a boys locker room.
So my challenge to you today, is to embrace your inner joy and put it on full display. Let your face do a lot of smiling. Don’t hold back because you don’t like your teeth, or your afraid you’ll make a funny sound when you laugh.
Jump into life with both feet.
Allow yourself to be filled with wonder and delight and then share that enthusiasm with those around you.
Be intentional about cheering someone else on.
Let them know you’re their biggest fan.
7 ways to express enthusiasm Today!
- Got someone you admire, leave a comment on their blog or social media site.
- Know a kid
whoselearning a new skill, give them a gold star for their efforts.
- Have a friend who is challenging themselves to grow and be better, let them know you’ve noticed the change and like the results.
- Give High Fives, Blow kisses, and do a couple fist bumps.
- Grab life by the horns and don’t back down.
- Give yourself some gold stars for all the hard work you’ve done.
Being enthusiastic brings you into an awareness of the presences of God all around you. It is a big yes to Him and life and everything wonderful and beautiful and worthy.
How will you cultivate enthusiasm in your life today?
Let me know in the comments below.
The Gift Of Creative Energy
“Whatever you give a woman, she will make greater.
If you give her sperm, she’ll give you a baby. G
iveher a house, she’ll give you a home. If you give her groceries, she’ll give you a meal. If you give her a smile, she’ll give you her heart. She multiplies and enlarges what is given to her.”
― William Golding
Men have an innate knowledge about women and their ability to create something out of nothing.
They have a deep unspoken awe and reverence for our ability to craft and create. And they look for that quality in a good wife the same way women admire a handy man who can get in there and fix a car.
When you are being creative you are doing holy work. Whether it’s making a sandwich, paining a picture, writing a poem or molding a pot.
You can add beauty and wonder all around you.
Today I want to challenge you to create something new
You don’t have to buy anything new, in fact, I encourage you to only use what is currently available.
Don’t put yourself under pressure to come up with something new.
What has been will be again,
what has been done will be done again;
there is nothing new under the sun.
So make what you love to make.
Or what you once loved making.
- Bake a pie
- Make some muffins
- Scrap book
- Paint a picture
- Paint a wall
- Knit a stitch
- Write a song
- Draw a picture
- Decorate a cake
- Do some welding
Bonus Points if you do it with Undivided Attention and Enthusiasm
The Gift Of Tenderness
Have you ever stopped and wondered what the greatest oxymoron in the universe might be?
An oxymoron is a figure of speech containing words that seem to contradict each other.
- Act naturally
- Clearly confused
- Dark light
- Deafening silence
- Definitely maybe
- Growing smaller
- Jumbo shrimp
- Painfully beautiful
- Passive aggressive
- Small crowd
- Weirdly normal
But if you ask me,
The Greatest Oxymoron in the universe and throughout history is
Where divinity meets humanity.
All of God wrapped up in the fragility of a new born child.
Now, I’ve given birth to two beautiful baby girls, and holding them for the first time was the most intimidating and wonderful experience.
They came into the world so small and helpless.
For the first week I barely slept because I honestly felt like it if I wasn’t watching them, they might stop breathing.
As if it was my stare that kept them alive.
I can only imagine what it would have been like for Mary to bring that brand new baby.
The promise of God.
The Savior, deliverer and Messiah
Into this hostile world.
This is the best example of the gift of tenderness being displayed that I can possibly imagine.
God, Omnipresent, Omnipotent, All knowing, All powerful.
Surrendered to dwell in a little baby boy.
Today, I want to challenge you to embrace your own tenderness and offer it to the world.
Tenderness is Feminine.
The gift of tenderness makes you more attractive become it is especially feminine.
Sometimes, when you are a strong, single, independent woman it’s easy to feel like you have to push and fight your way to the top.
In order to break barriers, and smash through limits you have to crush the opposition. And sometimes that is exactly what you have to do.
But as a woman you have the beautiful divine ability to be tender.
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Be gentle, especially with yourself.
Maybe you have big dreams and goals and you like to challenge yourself. But don’t beat yourself up over mistakes.
We all struggle, and tenderness allows you to pay attention to the warning signs and slow down before you break.
Slow down before you break down
The other day, I woke up stiff and sore.
I was in a rush, because I had over slept and I had a lot of work I had to do.
My first thought was, “I didn’t get enough sleep” and I knew right away that I was setting myself up for a really bad day.
I had been pushing myself really hard to accomplish some big goals and I wanted to do a lot more work.
But I knew in that moment that if I wasn’t tender and gentle with myself and my kids, I would regret it. Things would back fire and I would feel really burnt out.
So, instead of pushing through another work
Instead of continuing to fast, I made us all chocolate chip pancakes.
And instead of keeping everyone cooped up while I work, we went out for a nice walk to enjoy the sights and sounds of the season.
Just Do It!
And, I didn’t feel bad about any of it.
Sure, the devil tried to tell me that I am weak because I broke my fast, and that I won’t be successful unless I hit every dead line.
But I turned around and reminded the devil that being a mom is holy work, and sometimes that holy work involve making pancakes with a 3 year old and sitting down together to eat them.
Tenderness is about noticing how others are feeling, and I had noticed that my girls were feeling ignored.
So, I stopped and gave them what they wanted and needed most.
- Undivided attention
- My creative Energy
And that’s what makes me #wifey.
Good men are looking for women who know how to slow down and take care of the emotional needs of others.
They need someone who can compliment their hard work with tenderness.
Tenderness is having a secret love language.
Men also want someone they can bare their heart to.
A gentle place to rest in the midst of the chaos and storms of life.
You’re job is to be the type of person who can appreciate being a safe haven. To create a space in which people can feel safe, loved and known.
One of the ways to do that are through those little inside jokes. The special secret ways to say I love you. In the details.
It’s in favorite meals and special songs.
The Tender Moments of life.
So, my challenge to you,
If you choose to accept it,
is to be tender.
Here are a few ways you can give the gift of tenderness.
- Notice how someone is feeling and tell that that you see they feel … (name the feeling) Ex: I see that you’re feeling disappointed.
- Tell someone you love them using your secret love language.
- Rekindle an old inside joke.
- Don’t beat yourself up
Now, I would love to hear how you’re going to give the gift of tenderness today, and if you have another idea to share, please leave it in the comments below.
The Gift Of Beauty
“Nothing makes a woman more beautiful than the belief that she is beautiful. ”
There are many attractive characters in the Bible. We’ve heard about how King Saul was tall and handsome and Samson had biceps to spare. But Jesus was a simple man in appearance, nothing stood out about him, and yet he is by far the most beautiful person in the world.
Where did that beauty come from?
He knew who he was.
And He created an atmosphere of beauty all around himself. A space in which anyone who drew near and accepted Him, would be able to see themselves as a beloved child of the Most-H
Think about how much time and money you have spent trying to be beautiful and attractive?
- New shoes, purses, and accessories
- The Perfect Dress
- A fresh hairstyle
- The right diet plan
- A personal trainer
- And more
Now, I don’t think that there is anything wrong with trying to look your best. When it comes to the whole makeup debate I don’t think a little lipstick is killing anyone.
But I believe that you must spend at least, if not more time and possibly money ensuring that you are beautiful on the inside.
We have no problem investing time and money on our outer appearance, but when it comes to doing internal, soulful, spiritual work, we tend to get stingy.
But being beautiful on the inside is a skill that we must learn, and sometimes instructions are necessary.
How do you enhance your inner beauty?
- Read books,
- Take classes
- Study the word of God
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Here are a few ways you can enhance your inner beauty;
Choose the words that are playing in your head carefully.
What are you saying to yourself about yourself and your circumstances on a daily basis?
Are you beating yourself up or letting Satan bombard you with negative thought? His lies can be very tempting bait to grab hold of, especially when we don’t feel deserving of love and respect.
We must have a willingness to ask for forgiveness and then fully receive it. What good does it do if God forgives us, but we continue to beat ourselves up?
In order to fulfill the command to forgive others, we must be able to forgive ourselves. We can’t give what we don’t have and that means we’ve got to let go of our mistakes and failures and move forward.
When you forgive yourself you take a huge burden off your shoulders and it literally changes your outward appearance. You stand taller, you smile more and you become beautifuller
Practice Self Love
I know that as Christians we are always being reminded of the importance of selflessness. But I want to encourage you that it’s not only okay, it’s also very important to practice self love.
This begins by knowing who you are. A child of God. A Princess of the Most-High King. You are divine royalty and you need to treat yourself as such.
This isn’t a license to spoil yourself, but a reminder to care for yourself with dignity and honor the life that God gave you. You can not give what you don’t have. And until you learn to love yourself you won’t be able to properly give or receive love from others.
If Self Love is a challenge for you, don’t worry, you are not alone.
This is a major hurdle for many women.
That’s why I’ve got a self-love challenge coming up that will help you bust through that barrier.
It’s coming up in Mid January 2019, but sign up now.
It’s 100% free and I know it will be just what you need.
The Gift Of Wonder
“They who dwell in the ends of the earth stand in awe of Your signs; You make the dawn and the sunset shout for joy.”
There is so much we have yet to understand about ourselves, our world and our God. Today, give the gift of wonder by inspiring questions and
Wonder protects us from the sin of pride.
When you’re curious, and asking questions, you’re engaged with those around you and you’re demonstrating a willingness to learn.
Learn to ask good questions.
To often we focus all of our energy on telling people about ourselves, what we like, what we do and we forget to stop and listen. And it’s easy to fall into the trap of just listening for your next opportunity to say something.
Instead of waiting your turn and then saying “Can I say something now?” Try asking: “Is there anything more you’d like to share with me about that?’
People love to talk about themselves. If you give them the opportunity to do so, you can truly give them a great gift. It’s very rare to have someone really sit and listen and then invite them to keep going.
The Good News
Now, if you’re a bit of an introvert like me, this is a life saver!
Before I use to get into conversations and when it was my turn to say something I would be lost for words and there would be this awkward silence.
But since I’ve learned this little secret, not only do I have I eliminated the struggle to come up with something to say, people actually find me more interesting to talk.
That’s the beauty of this little tip.
You say less, but and others like you more. This is a great way to avoid the wrong thing. Or revealing too much personal information. Some of us have a bad habit of over sharing when we don’t know what to talk about.
A fool vents all his feelings,Proverbs 29:11
But a wise man holds them back.
Here are a few conversation starters.
- What did you do, create or experience this year that you’re really proud of?
- What challenges do you have planned for next year that you’re excited to tackle?
- Tell me about the best book you read this year.
These questions will go so much further than, “how are the kids?”
Maybe you’d like to answer them for yourself in a journal.
Or even better, in the comments below.
The Gift of Peaceful Surroundings
Before you answer the door, or invite anyone into your home say this quick prayer
Help me to be a peacemaker today!
Please let your peace fill my home ( car, office, classroom).
I want everyone who enters into this place to feel your presence.
Help me to ensure that I create a space that is warm and welcoming. Where people feel safe, loved and blessed.
Let me give the gift of peaceful surroundings.
We all have some sort of dysfunction going on in our families.
An alcoholic uncle, an aunt who abuses her prescription drugs, a gay brother, a homeless sister, an abused mother. Someone is dealing with the loss of a loved one. Someone else is deeply in debt. Addiction, depression, and dysfunction affect all of us.
So when we get together for the holidays it’s not unusual to find a lot of tension and stress.
Some people aren’t talking to each other. Other’s spend too much time gossiping. And it’s easy to feel disappointed and ask “can’t we all just get along?”
Today in the midst of the arguments and glaring I want to challenge and encourage you. Be the Peace Maker.
Blessed are the peacemakers, For they shall be called sons [and Daughters] of God.Matthew 5:9
Create a peaceful environment.
If people will be visiting you, take the time to create a peaceful environment.
- Light the good scented candles
- Greet people with a big warm hug
- Put warm beverages in their hands
- Have Tylenol available
There are little things that we can do to make the physical space more peaceful. And that can have an impact on the way people behave.
But it’s also important that you give people an example to follow. If you’re busy and frustrated and doing an hundred things at once, those around you will be on edge too.
Instead try to focus on being calm, peaceful and present. Sit. Listen. Breath.
Be A Role Model
We can’t help but mirror what we see those around us doing. So set the example. If things are starting to get tense, get the instigator out of that situation quickly. Don’t wait for it to escalate, just invite them to go for a walk with you or help with something in the kitchen.
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Today, I want to know, how will you help to ensure that there is Peace on Earth and Good Will towards all?
Tell me in the comments below.
The Gift Of Joy
“For in him our hearts have joy; in his holy name is our hope.”Psalm 33:21
This is a gift for you! You can’t give it to anyone, it’s totally internal and it can be eternal. It can be eternal because it doesn’t rely on circumstances.
But, even in the midst of the holiday season, joy can easily elude us.
Because what we’re craving is happiness.
We too easily confuse Joy and Happiness.
And for women this can be especially difficult. Because we desperately want to make others happy.
Trying to make others happy is a painfully vain pursuit.
It’s like trying to keep everyone’s drinks ice cold in the desert.
You run around all day bringing fresh ice cubes, but instead of being appreciated for all you hard work, you only get more demands for ice and complaints about the fact that the ice cubes have melted.
So today, I want you to shift your goal from making people happy, to having Joy in your own heart.
You can’t force this gift on anyone. All you can do is receive it as a gift from God. And in doing so, you inspire and make it easier for those around you to enjoy their own portion of Joy as well.
And, the beauty of Joy, is that it doesn’t have to come and go based on the circumstances. Even in the midst of conflict, pain and frustration you can still have Joy.
It’s hard to believe, but it’s true.
The Joy of the Lord is your strength in the hard times. It doesn’t fail. You’ve just got to stay committed to celebrating it.
- It’s not about the cicumstances
- Or about who’s there and who’s not
- It’s about believing God.
- Everything is working for your good.
Joy To The World. The Savior Reigns!
The Gift of Comunication
Let your speech always be gracious, seasoned with salt, so that you may know how you ought to answer each person.
Learning to communicate effectively has massive benefits.
When you discover this art, you instantly become more attractive because you are suddenly memorable, and captivating.
The true secret is in learning how to listen.
When you combine giving people your undivided attention with a bit of curiosity you become the most interesting person in the room, without having to babble on about trivial topics; like the weather.
You can avoid those embarrassing moments of over sharing, and relax into a natural conversation that causes causes hours to fly by and leaves you wondering where the time went.
This is what couples long for.
This is intimacy!
And thankfully, it’s not a natural talent, where you either have it or you don’t. It’s a skill, anyone can learn it!
Let’s start with the basics.
Today, I want to challenge you to sit down with someone and let them talk.
Invite someone over for tea, or take them out for a cup of coffee.
Practice on someone you already know and trust. – Like your mom, sister or friend.
- Sit down, give them your undivided attention.
- Put away your phone and turn towards them
- Make eye contact.
This is foundation to good communication.
Research shows that when we are really paying attention and interested in what someone is saying, we point our feet towards them. So if your feet are pointed towards the door, that signals to others that you’re in a hurry and want to go.
Ask sincere open ended questions that give someone room to talk.
Better yet, direct people to talk about a certain subject.
Example: “Tell me how your mom is doing since the move to seniors care.”
Let them say everything they want to and then follow up by asking; “Is there more you’d like to tell me about that?”
That might seem awkward, but it’s a proven method that allows people to share things that they’ve been bottling up because no one takes the time to ask. And having someone truly listen can be a transformational experience.
Don’t be embarrassed to ask the hard questions.
And don’t look away if it gets emotional.
What people need most is to be seen and heard.
In today’s busy world, we often avoid these kinds of heart to heart conversations. They take time. They’re raw and real. But they’re a true gift. And I pray that you will bless someone with it today.
Talk To Yourself
Here’s the thing, the way you talk to yourself is even more important than the things you say out loud to others. And we are going to be exploring that topic in depth through our self-love challenge which is coming up.
Sign up and learn how self love is the path to true love.
The Gift of Surprise
In the middle of the night, Boaz was startled awake and turned over in surprise to see a woman lying at his feet.
The Bible is Full Of Surprises!
The Bible is full of surprises!
Some of them are good and some not.
And, of course, it depends on whose side you’re on.
If you are for God, those surprises are usually a good thing.
But to those of you who will listen, I say: Love your enemies, do good to those who hate you, bless those who curse you, pray for those who mistreat you. If someone strikes you on one cheek, turn to him the other also. And if someone takes your cloak, do not withhold your tunic as well. Give to everyone who asks you, and if anyone takes what is yours, do not demand it back.
Do to others as you would have them do to you.
If you love those who love you, what credit is that to you? Even sinners love those who love them. If you do good to those who do good to you, what credit is that to you? Even sinners do the same. And if you lend to those from whom you expect repayment, what credit is that to you? Even sinners lend to sinners, expecting to be repaid in full.
Luke 6: 27-36
But love your enemies, do good to them, and lend to them, expecting nothing in return. Then your reward will be great, and you will be sons of the Most High; for He is kind to the ungrateful and wicked. Be merciful, just as your Father is merciful.
Christians Should Be F
ull of Surprises.
Now, being full of surprises should be standard practice for those living the Christian lifestyle. Surprising others is not only a good idea that will make you more attractive, but it’s also actually a command from Jesus.
This passage is telling us as Christians that we should surprise the world!
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We Don’t Like Surprises!
The problem is; we don’t like surprises.
we think we like surprises but in
The truth is that we like to get what we expect.
We want order and control and the proper outcome. We’re a lot like those morning field workers ( Matthew 20:1-16 ) who did not appreciate the surprise of finding out that the evening workers were going to make the same amount as them.
But, most blessings and miracles are a surprise, and if we hope to receive them we should work on giving others good surprises ourselves.
Surprises make you highly attractive.
And, the reason why giving surprises makes you incredibly irresistible to men, is because it shows that you are brave.
Because doing something unexpected is risky.
It takes guts.
Things might not go as planned.
When Ruth went out that night to lie at the feet of Boaz, it could have been a disaster. She could have been rejected, embarrassed and mocked!
He could have called her a slut and a gold digger.
She knew the risks,
But she also knew the possible rewards.
So, today, I am challenging you!
- Go do something risky!
- Be an unexpected blessing
- Buy a cup of coffee for the person behind you
- Drop off a carton of milk to your lonely neighbor
- Call someone you haven’t spoken to in years and ask for forgiveness.
- Donate twice as much as usual.
- Take a leap of faith and ask him out.
And when you’re done, come back and tell us how it went.
I love to hear about how you are taking these daily challenges and applying them to your own life. Tell me about your adventures and successes in the comments below.
The Gift Of Relaxation
Matthew 11: 28-29
“Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls.”
Who looks their best when they’re frustrated, overwhelmed and exhausted?
And, who wants to spend time with those who are in that state?
Trust me, relaxation looks good on you!
But, if you like me, an ambitious, hard-working, overachiever like me, relaxing can feel self-indulgent and guilt-inducing.
To avoid shame, I actually watch TED TALKS instead of Netflix because I feel like at least I’m learning something while I sit on the couch.
But, God knows I need a break, and He not only approves of us taking one,
It’s A Command.
“Remember the sabbath day, to keep it holy.
Six days shalt thou
labour, and do all thy work:
But the seventh day is the sabbath of the Lord thy God: in
itthou shalt not do any work, thou, nor thy son, nor thy daughter, thy manservant, nor thy maidservant, nor thy cattle, nor thy stranger that is within thy gates”
Now, I’m not going to debate which day you should rest on, or what qualifies as work etc. What I want you to see is that God knows you need a break and He made a provision for it.
He wants you to take a break, and He wants everyone around you to take a break too. EVERYONE NEEDS TO JUST CHILL OUT!
But, even though there’s a commandment about it and everything, why is it still so hard? Why do we feel the incessant need to fill every single second of our lives with busy work?
What can we do differently, so that relaxing is easy?
Relaxing should be Easy.
You’re environment actually plays a really big role in how easy it is for you to relax. Take a look around right now, and ask yourself, what does this environment say about me?
Now whether you are single and living in your childhood bedroom in your mother’s house, or you have a home of your own, there are simple changes you can make to create a more relaxing atmosphere.
And, this is important if you’re trying to attract a husband.
Because, after a long day of work, you both need a place of refuge.
You need a place where you can be calm, safe and intimate.
And you can start with whatever space you have available right now.
A Few Ways To Relax:
- Get good blinds. – Because sometimes you need to be able to shut the door and leave the storm outside.
- Make the bed. – It’s a quick and easy way to affirm that rest is important.
- Get the TV out of your bedroom. – Seriously, move it out, because it is a direct enemy to relaxation and intimacy.
- Take a bath. – Just soak, be still and know that He is God.
- Change your playlist. – What you listen to changes your state of being. Gospel and Praise music are wonderful, but that’s not your only option. David soothed Saul with a variety of melodies.
- Take a walk. – Some fresh air and a change of scenery can be very soothing.
These are all ways to love yourself, and in turn, have more love for others.
If you would like to learn more about Self Love as the path to True Love, Join the Self Love Challenge.
Toward the end of January we will be doing a 21 day self love challenge leading up to Valentines.
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I’d hope I have inspired you to change your environment and embrace relaxation. Share one change that you are going to make Today, in the comments below.
The Gift of Hope!
“But those who hope in the LORD will renew their strength. They will soar on wings like eagles; they will run and not grow weary, they will walk and not be faint.”Isaiah 40:31
Hope fuels us!
It keeps us alive, believing that tomorrow will be better than yesterday and that today is full of opportunities and potential.
As we end this challenge, I want to leave you with full of hope.
Excited about your future.
Believing that all things are possible, because you are a daughter of the King of Heaven. You are in Christ. And nothing good will be denied.
This is the year that you receive you’re heart’s desire.
You will be blessed and you’ll be a blessing!
“YOUR children arise and call YOU blessed; YOUR husband also, and he praises YOU!”Proverbs 31:28
If you don’t have them yet, they’re coming!
So, it’s time to decide;
What do you want?
- Who do you want to be?
- What do you want to experience?
- Where will you go?
- What will you do?
Don’t worry about how.
At least not right now. Believe that God will make a way. That you will have what you need when you need it and not a moment too soon.
For now, Just Hope, Dream, and Believe.
In grade 110, I thought I knew what I wanted. My dreams were very modest. I wanted to marry my high school
That summer I got a call working at a call center. I was making money for the first time and I got really excited. I had grown up way below the poverty line and I had an intense fear of repeating a family cycle of not having money.
So, I thought, why go back to school for grade 12?
My grades weren’t that good. And we had no money for university. I figured, why not get a head start on getting a paycheck.
Thank God, my mom would not allow me to drop out!
I went back to school in September, but my heart wasn’t in it.
And so when a friend of mine asked me to get on a bus and spend the weekend in the city with her, I nervously agreed.
She had made some friends with a guy on a chat line and he would pick us up and show us around. – I knew this was a dangerous and bad idea, but I was young and dumb and felt invincible. So after a few lies and 3 hours on the bus, I found myself in Halifax.
After a few days of riotous living, (I’ll spare you the details) ran out of money and had to go home.
Where were you?
When my English Teacher asked me where I had been for last few days I told him I had been checking out the universities in Halifax, (which was partly true).
He asked me if I had gone to The University of King’s and I said no.
King’s, he said, was the best university in Canada, and especially for someone like me.
I looked at him like he had two heads. What did he mean, someone like me?
Someone who got a nice blend of B- C- and D on report cards.
This could not be a good school, and anyways, I didn’t have the money for something like that.
But he was relentless. He actually took me and a few other grade 12 students on a tour of the university himself.
I sat in the dinning hall (which looks a lot like the one at Hogwarts) and began to dream. Then I heard a lecture, and was totally won over.
I wanted to go! This was the life I wanted. To be a university student with the chance of an amazing career. Suddenly my world opened up. I saw how small my dream of the call center really was, and how much more was possible.
But I had never been a good student and there was no way I could afford it.
King’s wasn’t just the best school, it’s also one of the most expensive.
I felt frustrated. The gap was too big!
But God sent me an angel in the form of an English Teacher!
He wouldn’t give up!
Before I could see it, he believed that this was the path for me. He began using my essays as an example for the rest of the class. When I did poorly on a social studies test, he found me and asked what was going on and that I needed to do better.
I was confused. Why did he care?
Suddenly I found myself in a debate club, winning at regionals and going to Ottawa for the finals.
I debated in the house of commons!
My grades improved, and my outlook on life changed.
But there was still no money.
They only way I could go was with a scholarship.
I didn’t meet the requirements for most of them.
But at the end of the year, I walked away from high school with the most scholarship money of any of the graduating students.
My first year of tuition was completely covered, and I additional scholarships paid for almost 50% during the next four years.
Only one person believed this was possible. But that’s all it took.
I was the first person in my family to attend and graduate from university and I finished with honors and a double major.
God Made A Way.
And in all of that God prepared me for what I am doing today.
I’m telling you this story because there was a time when my future was bigger that me or my dream. And it took time to grow into it. From the start it looked impossible. But God made a way.
So no matter where you’re at today.
If you feel like your dreams are impossible.
Don’t be afraid. God really can make a way.
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